In my opinion anyway 🙂
Self-care can be gentle and sweet, of course. It’s doesn’t have to be complicated or difficult. An afternoon nap. Smoothing on your favorite lotion. Laughing with a friend. Taking 30 seconds just to lean back and breathe.
And, being deeply committed to self-care? Making it a priority in your life – no matter what?
That takes guts. And a hellava lot of discipline!
Self-care has been a priority for me, and a constant challenge and balancing act, for the last year or so. I’ve worked hard at it. Really freakin’ hard. I just returned from a 2-week vacation that was a much needed break and self-care venture after I left my day job to be fully invested in my business.
Logically and financially this trip didn’t make any sense. And, boy, were those nay-saying voices up for me throughout the trip! Some of the trip was easy. Long walks and hikes with no time limits. Lots of journaling and writing. Reading for hours. Exploring new cities and states. Meeting and spending time with friends.
The rest of it, though? Not so much sunshine and daisies.
Crying by my campfire. Making myself sit the fuck down and feel the crazy emotions of grief and change roll through me – fear, anxiety, sadness, doubt, disappointment, anger – instead of resisting or judging them. Spending hours and hours alone and having no distractions left to use to avoid the inner stuff I’ve been running form.
Self-care isn’t always about what we want. It’s about what we need. And sometimes, in the moment, that doesn’t always feel so great.
It’s about getting up and going for that hike when I want to just curl up and hide in bed. It’s about cooking real food instead of just grabbing Ben & Jerry’s Chocolate Therapy for lunch. It’s about picking up the phone to call someone to help me unwind the jabbering thoughts in my head. It’s about feeling whatever I feel until it moves through and I can move on.
Sometimes, what I know is best to truly care for and nurture myself feels painful and uncomfortable in the moment. Sometimes it takes every ounce of courage and discipline I have to follow through with real self-care.
This holds true whether I’m on vacation and burnout banishment excursion – or back home living my daily life. I’d even say it’s more true in the normal, day-to-day.
Committing to self-care and loving myself is courageous. Following through with that commitment is gutsy and requires a lot of discipline.
Self-care might not always be sunshine and daisies…but, to use an old cliche, after the storms come the rainbows. The sunshine always returns. And, you know, if you’re really committed to self-care, you won’t need that pot of gold at the end of that rainbow.
You’ll already be golden 😉