Depth of Love Has No Basis In Time

There is this idea that when a baby dies during pregnancy or infancy, it somehow hurts less. So many families I know who have lost a baby struggle with this thoughtless and inaccurate assumption - and the lack of support that comes with it.

But depth of love has no basis in time. ⁣

If you find yourself thinking there is a connection between time and love, ask yourself this: ⁣

At what stage of development would you have been willing to have your child die? ⁣

Loss is highly contextual and differs from one person to the next - there is no wrong way to grieve and no limits about how much love in present regardless of the age that a baby or child dies. ALL loss deserves validation and acknowledgement.

⁣Compassion often comes from taking a second to take yourself out of your own discomfort and into another's situation for a moment. Life is often hard and messy and brutally painful, let's not make it harder on each other with baseless assumptions or judgements on what is acceptable to grieve.

If someone is hurting, they deserve compassion and support - even if you don't understand.